How can you overcome the imposter syndrome? Where does it come from, and why do we think we are faking it and never truly making it?
How do we accept the unacceptable in life? Because isn’t accepting life as-is a form of defeat? Does accepting today’s circumstances mean that we become passive, and that things will never ever change?
Last weekend I was visiting my new favourite spot, the farmers market, situated just a short bicycle ride from my new house. I had some yummy goodies in my basket, and the lady smiled at me behind the counter. “That’ll be €21,21. Oh how nice, that’s an angelic number!” Lately I have been seeing numbers everywhere, so at home I had to google the significance of this latest addition, the number 2121.
I wish I had a blueprint in life. The kind that everyone else seems to be having. Or maybe I did receive it as well, but I must have misplaced it.
During the early summer I was walking the streets of Helsinki, Finland (my home country and city where I lived for 3 years before moving to the Philippines). The sun was shining, my step was light, and I felt the familiar power I had when I used to live there. I was independent, in love, free and felt successful. I was a 30-something urban woman who enjoyed the freedom of double-income-no-kids. Weekends were filled with croissants in bed and dancing in bars.
I must admit, during the past months I have felt like I have been failing instead of growing. Like I have given up on all that is important, everything I strived so hard for, everything I worked so hard for during the last four years only to return to the same spot where I left years ago.
It seems to be confusing to people when you don’t fit into a ready-made-box. I have noticed how my very existence at the moment makes most people around me confused.
When you lead an unorthodox, rootless and global life, things are often changing quite fundamentally. Today I’m looking out onto the ocean from my familiar garden chair and drinking my morning coffee from my cheerfully pink mug. Yet in a few days I won’t be here anymore. One adventure, one period of my life is ending, and it’s hard for me to process it.
There is one important stage in a change process, and in life process, which is less talked about. I call this the the messy middle.
Living you dream and following your heart are topics which are getting a lot of air time lately. Yes, I am an advocate of following your heart and dreams, but I don’t agree (anymore) with the way it is portrayed as the solution to all your problems.